Tuesday, December 18, 2012

listen to me live on sex out loud this friday

Listen to me live this Friday December 21, 5 pm PST/8 pm EST on Tristan Taormino’s radio show “Sex Out Loud” on The VoiceAmerica Network. Call in to talk to me and Tristan LIVE: 866-472-5788.

I really look forward to talking about women and porn with callers and Tristan who herself is a feminist porn filmmaker, as well as an award-winning author, columnist, sex educator, and speaker. We will discuss the growing number of women radically changing porn to respectfully capture the authentic sexual lives of women and men and how feminist porn has become a vehicle for people to explore and define sexuality on their terms.

Thursday, December 6, 2012

How I Came to Porn

(This post, which was first published online at Good Vibrations Magazine, is an excerpt from the Introduction of After Pornified: How Women Are Transforming Pornography & Why It Really Matters.)

I never wanted to watch porn. When a former boyfriend years ago showed me some of his “glossier” porn, as he put it, I was completely grossed out. The premise of his porn was that all these Barbie-looking women would seek out a stud residing in this huge mansion, where he would provide them with their ultimate satisfaction by spraying his come all over them, which they in turn would greedily lick and smear all over their bodies. The cliché portrayal of yearning women in need of a man was in itself offensive to me. But it was especially the prolonged scene featuring the guy hosing down a group of women with his ejaculate that turned me off.

You’d think from our pornified culture that we all want porn. But we know that’s not the case. Sure, women represent a large and growing audience for porn, representing at least a third of all consumers, adding up to millions of women watching porn each month.[i] But not everyone is crazy about what they see. Whether it’s “high gloss” or amateur porn, in either case featuring deep throating women who are pumped hard, legs spread wide, all the while moaning for more with come-hither eyes. The stacks of mass-produced porn at seedy superstores off the interstate. Trashy hotel room porn. Online smut catering to any imaginable (and unconceivable!) fetish. And even “softcore” and “couples porn” allegedly improved to appeal to women, but not really. Plastic looks, porny music, bad acting, faked satisfaction.

But then I found something radically different.
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